Because you are reading this article there is a good chance that you and your girlfriend have just broken up. If she dumped you because of something you did, you probably want to know how to get her back. However, it is important to remember that she is not a prize you are trying to chase. She is someone you love, and you surely don’t want to hurt her. So, take heed to some advice on how to get your ex back.
First of all, try to define the reasons why your girlfriend decided to leave you. Sometimes they are quite obvious and this step doesn’t require much. However, if those reasons are not that clear for you, you need to do a couple of things.
The best solution would be, of course, to talk with your ex. However, sometimes it might be wiser to approach her friends first. Your ex girlfriend has probably talked about your break up to her friends, and they may be able to give you some answers.
Now, let’s assume that whatever you did was not unforgivable, and hope is not totally lost. Next you have to face the situation and admit your wrong doings. Make no excuses for yourself.
If the time is right, approach your ex and discuss with her about the issue or issues in question. However, sometimes it is better to wait awhile and let her to cool off before approaching her.
One way to approach your ex is also through her close friend. You can ask her to tell your ex how sorry you are, and that you want to talk with her.
When you finally have a chance to talk with her in person, really listen what she has to say. Only after that it is your turn to talk. Be sincere, and don’t toss around a macho attitude.
You should choose the place to talk with her somewhere else than at your own place. Some quiet restaurant or park could be suitable. If you have a reason to believe that your conversation might become heated then the place should be chosen so that you both can let your emotions flow.
You however, need to keep you cool and not be on the defensive. It’s alright to show some emotion. It will let her know you care. But refrain from yelling or pointing out her flaws.
The key is to listen, acknowledge and confirm what it is that caused the break-up. It’s not to listen, point out and blame her for your behavior.
So, here was some tips that should help you to get your ex girlfriend back without playing any head games. Remember that it is you who needs to correct things, not your ex.